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How many kids have to die before we start talking to our own?

on June 11, 2014

APTOPIX_Connecticut_School_Shooting-0333f-1024x535I saw an article today about school shootings. It said that there have been at least 74 since Newtown, CT. That was only 2.5 years ago. That equals out to about 2.5 a MONTH. How is this possible? I heard about the one in Oregon today and turned to my 15 month old son and told him that home schooling was in his future. I was only half kidding.

How can we make sure that this type of thing stops happening? There are the anti-gun people who say that we need to outlaw guns.. then there are the pro-gun people who think that we should arm everyone so that the “bad guy” will reconsider storming the grounds. The problem with that is that it’s very rare that the shooter ever survives… half the point is to go out in a blaze of glory.. I really don’t think that supplying guns to anyone with in reach will help the situation. It will just confuse the matter and no one will know who the “bad guy” is anymore.

Personally what I don’t understand is where are the parents through all of this. I was raised by a single father.. and let’s be honest.. dad’s aren’t the most attentive of parents, but my dad knew where I was at all times. Who I was with.. and how I was feeling. We would have dinners together and go for walks on summer evenings. He was well versed in the boys that I liked.. the girls that Ischool_shooting_drill_t607 hated and knew far too much about “The New Kids on the Block” for his liking… don’t judge it was the late 80s-early 90s. But the point is my dad was involved. He knew my best friend. He wasn’t her biggest fan and didn’t think she was a great influence.. but he took the time to get to know her. He gave us rides, till we were old enough to drive ourselves. He paid attention!

I know that teenagers are psunonomous with privacy and secrets and not being particularly forth coming. It’s their time to branch out on their own and gain some independence.. but they aren’t adults yet. It’s the parents’ job to make sure that their kids are healthy, high functioning members of society. And to be honest with all the technology out there it’s almost easier to see what your kids are up to. Follow their twitter, instagram.. facebook.. blogs.. snapchats and what ever else come along. They are putting their lives out there for the world to see.. if they get on you about snooping tell them.. A… you can snoop all you want till they move out or pay rent and then you can only pry.. and B.. it’s not snopping if you make it public information… if a company sends out a press release that they’re about to go bankrupt they can’t call it insider trading when the stock crashes… it’s all the freedom of information, baby.

I digress.. the point is we have to stop trying to figure out how to get guns out of people’s hands and start figuring out how to keep kids from wanting to kill their classmates and themselves.. cuz if not guns it’ll be bombs, knives… cars… pop rocks and soda… what ever they can get their hands on. Let’s work on talking to our kids again… and taking some responsibilty ourselves.


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